Lil Skater, I still don't think you realize that a 17yo is not an independent. Try and rent a property at that age.....try and buy and maintain a car, and pay bills. Try and live without govt handouts or Mum's money. In my day, the govt didn't give minors money to spend as they chose, nor did most parents.....and it is a mistake that they do this in my view.
You would do well to talk to older people and find out how people have lived before your generation.
Self discipline and self mastery might sound square and suffocating concepts to you......but I promise you that without it, you will not achieve 1/10 of what you can with it. You will just compete with 85% of the population who don't value these concepts highly.
If you really want to excel at something, you have to learn to apply yourself, be disciplined, master impulse.
No, I do realise at 17 you're not seen as an independent. However at 17, I bought my own car, paid insurance, petrol, repairs etc myself. Most of my peers had their cars bought for them and didn't even pay for their own petrol. I also paid my own phone bill, worked two jobs AND continued to do plenty of sporting activities.
As I am, I have not, will not and have absolutely NO intention to rely on government handouts nor my "Mum's" money. I haven't turned to the Government for rent assistance as I am on a low wage, I have not called up my parents and asked them to give me money.
I have been living interstate for the past 6 months, paying my own way completely as an independent. When I moved here it was less than 6 months after I turned 18... Which doesn't make me much older than your Son.
You mustn't know much about me, just because I wasn't born in "your" generation does not make me naive to the fact that I have lived a very privileged life. However I do agree that the Government is too willy nilly with hand outs and parents are too quick to give their kids whatever they desire presented on a silver platter.
Self discipline is a very large part of me - how do you think I have competed at an International level in my chosen sport?
Also, for the record, I pulled MYSELF out of a school at the end of year 8 to start fresh at a new school, I was 14 but still knew this was what was best for me both educationally and emotionally.
Need I mention, yet again. I am 18, a very similar age to your Son, I live in another state to my parents and hours away from any other family - You have no idea how hard this is for me, but I do it every day. I get up early every day and take myself to work - because I know I won't have a roof over my head, I know I won't eat, I know I won't be able to do what I love, which is skate.
I don't have any friends, besides the ones I have met through my sport or my boyfriend. I don't have a huge support network of people around me to help out when times get tough or help me to run away from the reality which is life, but I've put myself in this position because I wanted to prove myself to everyone that said I couldn't and because I know I can do and be anyone that I want to be and you know what, I'm going to be great - I'm making my parents proud, myself proud and I know I have so many people cheering me on.
So you and others, can try to bring me down. Try to compare me to others my age, but I'm nothing like your Son, his friends or my old friends. I don't need my parent's, boyfriend's or Government's money - I'm making my own and holding myself up on my own two feet and will continue to do so.
Oh, and for the record. I'm going to be more than a wife and a mother and I love the fact that these are your only goals for a woman, to be a wife and a mother. I'm not a feminist, but I know I can do more in my life than raise children or cook for four.