My husand is 44 and left home at 15 due to an overbearing father. Now we live on the other side of the world, have 2 kids that do not know one set of grandparents because of the damage done in the years from 15-18.
They withdrew their financial and emotional support from him because he wouldnt conform to their ideals so he left and made his own life. He is an only child and his parents have no close family, and ultimately they are the ones who missed out. We have a loving and close family on my side who have welcomed him in to our lives. The contrast between his upbringing and mine was huge but we both got drunk, both experimented with drugs both got ourselves into situations that were a bit sticky, but the difference was, I knew pretty much what ever I did, my parents may not approve but would always be there for me.
The comment about withdrawing emotional and financial support sent shivers down my spine - too reminiscent of my husband's situation but in the end it is his parents who have suffered more.
They withdrew their financial and emotional support from him because he wouldnt conform to their ideals so he left and made his own life. He is an only child and his parents have no close family, and ultimately they are the ones who missed out. We have a loving and close family on my side who have welcomed him in to our lives. The contrast between his upbringing and mine was huge but we both got drunk, both experimented with drugs both got ourselves into situations that were a bit sticky, but the difference was, I knew pretty much what ever I did, my parents may not approve but would always be there for me.
The comment about withdrawing emotional and financial support sent shivers down my spine - too reminiscent of my husband's situation but in the end it is his parents who have suffered more.